But how many of us can actually answer this, honestly?
A lot of us may say, well I know who I am....so what is she talking about? Well, I hate to break it to you, you don't. You still got a lot of growing and learning to do.
R.E.S.P.E.C.T
Respect yourself.! I don't know how many times I have to stress this but HOW DO YOU EXPECT ANY GUY TO RESPECT YOU IF YOU CANT RESPECT YOURSELF.? A guy tells you Bitch JUMP, and you say okay Ima JUMP or How High Baby....You are a damn fool. No need to sugar coat this at all. I have seen it all.! And honestly I think it makes the rest of us look bad, because most of these guys have become accustomed to having these females on choke chains they feel that all females will allow them to put that leash on them. Its okay to be obedient to your boyfriend, boo, hubby or whatever but don't take it that damn far to where you on yo hands and knees taking his orders....... and he not doing shit for you. But you doing everything you feel a GOOD girlfriend would do, and that's fine I cant even argue that down too much, but make sure he doing the same for you, or at least bringing something to the table besides good dick and conversation! If your in a relationship it should be an eye for an eye thing, if he cant provide and you cant either then You all don't need to be in a relationship plain and simple. Get it together people. (Ladies) AND O.M.G LADIES STOP PUTTING THESE FELLAS BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN! (THAT'S ANOTHER POST)
Settling.
Settling, all I really have to say for this is NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS OR SELL YOU-SELF FOR SHORT. This will end badly, once you've settled you have obtained the ability of learned helplessness which is where you stopped trying and caring. You have truly given up on yourself. :-( But why, and to be honest this happens to a lot of women when they get married too. (in a way) Some figure "oh I got this ring he not goin nowhere, comb my hair for what..?" I don't know about you all but my mother always told me, Never Let a man be your only reason you fix up or dress up. I mean why not dress up from time to time, do you hair, work-out etc. Shit, me personally I love dressing up and getting pretty, when I wake up it's my routine to get up shower throw on some liner, mascara, comb my hair and put on some decent clothes. even if I don't feel like it, I got some comfortable stretch pants and cute tops to throw on n still be a bad, beautiful, and bold young lady.That's how I was raised. And once that guy see's your gonna do you and get pretty regardless he''ll do nothing but respect that and fall in love with you over and over again.
How can YOU LOVE anyone when you haven't even considered YOUR-SELF.?
Okay, now let's get down to it. When no one is there to catch your tears remember God will always be there. You are never alone. Along with God and if you have GREAT BFF's then you'll be fine. But, you still must focus on your-self, learn to help your-self, learn how to love your-self. I know everyone has heard Beyonce's song Me Myself and I. That song tells it all.! ( Just About) Treat your-self and Do Not Trick or Cheat yourself. You are precious, inside and out. No matter what people say to you, they wont matter in the future or the end it's all about YOU. You do not need to always be surrounded by people, a little movie night or spa day for YOU will be nice! Learn about yorself, keep a journal. Enjoy being who you are. THEN AFTER YOU HAVE LEARNED TO ACCEPT YOU AND UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT AND LIKE, THEN FIND MR. RIGHT, HE WILL BE WAITING. DONT JUMP TOO QUICK INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP.! THINGS TAKE TIME, MAKE IT MAKE SENSE, ENJOY YOUR LIFE, HAVE FUN && LIVE IT UP..!!
Every relationship that didn't work in the past was a lesson.
Hearts get broken, it's a known fact indeed. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Shit happens, and it happens for a reason, God will take you through Hell just to you get to Heaven, so We will meet and fall in love with assholes just so we can accept and learn how appreciate our Prince Charming and King Tuts. In my opinion, God shows us that things could be a lot worse. He teaches us not to take ourselves (our hearts) for granted, so he tests us by sending us the wrong guys to see how far we will allow them to take us, mentally (sometimes physically too). So everything beyond that is up to us.R.E.S.P.E.C.T
Respect yourself.! I don't know how many times I have to stress this but HOW DO YOU EXPECT ANY GUY TO RESPECT YOU IF YOU CANT RESPECT YOURSELF.? A guy tells you Bitch JUMP, and you say okay Ima JUMP or How High Baby....You are a damn fool. No need to sugar coat this at all. I have seen it all.! And honestly I think it makes the rest of us look bad, because most of these guys have become accustomed to having these females on choke chains they feel that all females will allow them to put that leash on them. Its okay to be obedient to your boyfriend, boo, hubby or whatever but don't take it that damn far to where you on yo hands and knees taking his orders....... and he not doing shit for you. But you doing everything you feel a GOOD girlfriend would do, and that's fine I cant even argue that down too much, but make sure he doing the same for you, or at least bringing something to the table besides good dick and conversation! If your in a relationship it should be an eye for an eye thing, if he cant provide and you cant either then You all don't need to be in a relationship plain and simple. Get it together people. (Ladies) AND O.M.G LADIES STOP PUTTING THESE FELLAS BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN! (THAT'S ANOTHER POST)
Settling.
Settling, all I really have to say for this is NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS OR SELL YOU-SELF FOR SHORT. This will end badly, once you've settled you have obtained the ability of learned helplessness which is where you stopped trying and caring. You have truly given up on yourself. :-( But why, and to be honest this happens to a lot of women when they get married too. (in a way) Some figure "oh I got this ring he not goin nowhere, comb my hair for what..?" I don't know about you all but my mother always told me, Never Let a man be your only reason you fix up or dress up. I mean why not dress up from time to time, do you hair, work-out etc. Shit, me personally I love dressing up and getting pretty, when I wake up it's my routine to get up shower throw on some liner, mascara, comb my hair and put on some decent clothes. even if I don't feel like it, I got some comfortable stretch pants and cute tops to throw on n still be a bad, beautiful, and bold young lady.That's how I was raised. And once that guy see's your gonna do you and get pretty regardless he''ll do nothing but respect that and fall in love with you over and over again.
How can YOU LOVE anyone when you haven't even considered YOUR-SELF.?
Okay, now let's get down to it. When no one is there to catch your tears remember God will always be there. You are never alone. Along with God and if you have GREAT BFF's then you'll be fine. But, you still must focus on your-self, learn to help your-self, learn how to love your-self. I know everyone has heard Beyonce's song Me Myself and I. That song tells it all.! ( Just About) Treat your-self and Do Not Trick or Cheat yourself. You are precious, inside and out. No matter what people say to you, they wont matter in the future or the end it's all about YOU. You do not need to always be surrounded by people, a little movie night or spa day for YOU will be nice! Learn about yorself, keep a journal. Enjoy being who you are. THEN AFTER YOU HAVE LEARNED TO ACCEPT YOU AND UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT AND LIKE, THEN FIND MR. RIGHT, HE WILL BE WAITING. DONT JUMP TOO QUICK INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP.! THINGS TAKE TIME, MAKE IT MAKE SENSE, ENJOY YOUR LIFE, HAVE FUN && LIVE IT UP..!!
SEE YOU ALL IN POST TWO! LOVE YA!
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